Design a peaceful sanctuary where your child can learn emotional regulation and self-soothing skills.
A calm-down corner isn't a timeout space or punishment area. It's a cozy, safe haven where children can retreat when overwhelmed, practice self-regulation, and learn healthy coping strategies.
Bean bags, floor cushions, or a small chair. The key is making it inviting and comfortable, not isolating. Consider a soft blanket or weighted lap pad for extra comfort.
Stress balls, fidget toys, kinetic sand, or a sensory bottle. These help children regulate their nervous system and provide healthy outlets for big emotions.
Picture books about emotions, coloring books, or simple puzzles. Choose activities that are soothing rather than stimulating or competitive.
A simple poster showing breathing techniques, a pinwheel for visual breathing practice, or bubbles to encourage slow, deep exhales.
Let your child help choose items and arrange the space. This gives them ownership and makes it more appealing.
Show them how to use each item when they're happy and regulated. This isn't the time to learn new skills during a meltdown.
Never force your child to use the calm-down corner. Offer it as a choice: "Would you like to go to your calm corner, or would you like me to stay with you here?"
Young children may need you nearby. You can sit quietly at the edge of the space while they use their coping tools.
Using it as punishment
Never send a child to the calm-down corner as a consequence. This creates negative associations.
Making it too stimulating
Avoid bright lights, loud toys, or too many choices. The goal is calming, not entertaining.
Isolating completely
Young children need connection during big emotions. Don't abandon them to "calm down alone."
Start small: You don't need a whole room. A corner with a few items works perfectly.
Rotate items: Change out sensory tools and books periodically to maintain interest.
Model usage: Use the calm-down corner yourself when you need a moment. Children learn by watching.
Celebrate success: Acknowledge when your child chooses to use their coping tools independently.
Be patient: It takes time for children to learn new emotional regulation skills. Don't expect immediate results.